Hi Ladies . Hopefully the mature women who read this are the largest percent of my responders. I have never been married but am a old school raised type of Man so I am loyal as long as the loyalty is repected from the opposite side as well. I left a woman I believed I truly loved after 9 years and a couple kids/girls later knowing that I had never loved her at all. Atleast not in the way I know to be a life partner love but in a love one has for a sibling or child of there own. She is 6-1/2 years younger and something hereditery passed from her mother and her moms mom down thru thier genes keeps these particular women from being able to mature mentaly. All 3 ladies act as if they are 15 or so. This way of thinking doesnt allow them to appreciate a True Man,Gentleman,A 1950s type stern Man but passionate and kind hearted to thoseI love.I am this kind of man 110% and a generious and giving lover as well. After all these years I realized that I if I am to ever marry or find true love then that someone has to allow me the time and attention to it takes until we both have absolutely been truthful with every answer,words,and gestures, ideas,and passions and fantasies without holding a single syllable back for fear of rejection or hurting the others feelings . Also have to respect boundaries that are the very core of what makes each who we are. Without the proper type of personalitied person as your mate,lover,best-friend no amount of compromise,give in on rules or boundaries, no amount of effort can ever mold the two together as one and true love then and only then can be born and thrive. I believed before that caring for another meant you loved them. It does not in any sense of the word mean Love. And Love cannot ever exist between two wrong personalities or people,absolutely NEVER. Way to many married, engaged or even spent whole lives together couples are together believing they love one another and that one thing about the other person that they dislike or disagree with is just a issue to overcome . Blindly this is so wrong. Love must and will always be present from the very moment that the proper two personalities meet . And it grows from there if it is not ignored. The most important trait that destroys love or hope of finding love ever is Selfishness and your own personal wants always in the front of all else. So many things from multiple types of people and different characteristics that are unique to each personality type or similar thinking people that are the roots within themselves that decay love or chance to live with true love Always and 90% lead back to some form of selfishness. I tried a coue years after thinking this way to see if my lover of many years would in fact grow closer to me and love from her grow by giving her the unselfish answers and unselfishness from me always to her no matter what the sittuation was . And I found that because she never had that trait and could not be unselfish and had to come first when any desision she ever made didnt exist.Never could exist that she despised me and had hatred toward me because we never where and never could be the proper two types of personalities or people for each other. Sad ending to my rant here is no matter what 85% of all people ever to live or have lived will never experiance actuall true Real Love ,and most of this group will struggle, fight , live secretly miserable and with a hatred never shared to there partner/lover believeing they have love and know real love of a once stranger.They are wrong. And that way of living out your life is.the most battle filled , rough road, and most awful way to live ones lifetime. But reality is 99% of us think in order to be loved we must mold ourselves and our ways of thinking and movement to fit whomever our partner/lover is and based on the ways they believe to act and portray life. Never stray from any belief on a desision or routine you like or simple way you carry yourself each day. True love will never come to those who do not and will not love themselves for every single and last ounce of who you are the very day where born. So I am looking for opened minded and sexy women who have similar beliefs and can accept a man that does not stray no.matter what the consequence or outcome from what I believes makes me happy or that I believe in under any curcumstance including walking away from any relationship when its.realized that selfishness has invaded its way into the relationship. I will never tell you what you can, could,may do as yourself even if asked if I want you to do something my answer will always be , that is your desision and yours alone and I if I have to will make any desision needed for myself if you ever choose selfishly and it effects me or hurts me emotionally. But never could I be the one to say yes or no on whats right for.someone else to do or decide. And I.expect the same respect and thoughtfulness in return.